I used to have this fantasy-- I used to picture walking down the isle in my dream dress in a beautiful church and seeing my prince charming waiting at the end with stars in his eyes, maybe even crying... I imaged it being the perfect moment, beautiful and blissful. When I get to the end of the isle, my (step)dad can barely control himself as he gives me away. Everything would be magic. Isn't that what just about every girl wants in their wedding?
Well now I have come to the realization that Prince Charming does NOT exist. Don't get me wrong, I love my Jonathan dearly; I wouldn't trade him for anything. Like any other couple, though, we have our ups and downs. No one will ever have the "perfect relationship." It's a dream. I have the [ir?]rational fear that nothing is going to go right at our wedding.
Let's start with the basics. Stars in his eyes? Doubtful. I'm not that special. I mean he says that he will be so happy at our wedding, but I just can't picture it :-/ Tears?-- now that is definitely not going to happen. Maybe this is just my clinical depression speaking that makes me expect the worst. Maybe I am being completely irrational! What do you think? Next, my step dad crying... Well he's just not that type of person.
Anyway, I can only hope that things turn out exactly as I'm NOT expecting, because this is supposed to be the most joyous time of my life.
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Monday, January 21, 2013
Feeling Beautiful
So, I bought my dress on Saturday. I had a great time with my bridesmaids in Spokane. We picked out and paid for my dress (it will be in sometime in April) and we picked out the bridesmaids dresses which I was going to buy BUT I hit my credit limit. Boohoo!It felt nice trying on my dream dress. Every time I went on the David's Bridal website, I drooled over this dress. It was my dream to have this dress. I tried it on in a few sizes too big, so the woman helping me had to pin it back. I fell in love with it instantly.
There was another dress that I was strongly considering, but since I am having a Catholic wedding, I can't have a strapless dress which means I would have also had to buy something to cover my shoulders. The only problem with that is that the dress was already right at my budget. Because of this, and the fact that it was beautiful, I went with the other dress. I am very satisfied with my choice.Being a plus-sized bride, I am self conscious constantly; I felt like I had never felt before in this dress. This dress called out my name when I first laid eyes on it. Since I tried it on a few sizes too big, I had to guess that my size was the same as in the other dresses I tried on. Hopefully I'm right! If it does turn out to be a little small, luckily I CAN lose weight between April and October. I will be a beautiful blushing bride. :-)
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Long Lists of People
Names. Lots and lots of names. Names galore! We have been working on our list of people to send save the dates and invitations to. We ordered 150 cards (with free envelopes, yay!), and I am getting ready to fill a bunch out now. I am actually going to be working on that as soon as I am done posting this. So far we only have 58 addresses, but we're going to be giving some to people rather than sending in the mail, so there will be over a hundred I'm sure, once we've sent and handed everyone their cards. Wow, that was a long sentence! The save the date cards are just as cute as they were in the picture, so I am pretty satisfied.
On another note, I am getting geared up for this weekend! Getting a chance to spend some time with my girls and look at pretty dresses, then spending the night with a friend. I haven't had a "sleepover" in years! We're going to go look at dresses, get some panda express for lunch or dinner, and make ABSOLUTE SURE to stop by a Krispy Kreme donut store!
Tell me, how excited were you girls when you went dress shopping for the first time? If you haven't gone yet or if you're not even engaged yet, how excited do you anticipate being when your time comes? Trust me, it will live up to it's expectations, and then some.
I will probably see you all again after the weekend! Have fun blogging :-)
On another note, I am getting geared up for this weekend! Getting a chance to spend some time with my girls and look at pretty dresses, then spending the night with a friend. I haven't had a "sleepover" in years! We're going to go look at dresses, get some panda express for lunch or dinner, and make ABSOLUTE SURE to stop by a Krispy Kreme donut store!
Tell me, how excited were you girls when you went dress shopping for the first time? If you haven't gone yet or if you're not even engaged yet, how excited do you anticipate being when your time comes? Trust me, it will live up to it's expectations, and then some.
I will probably see you all again after the weekend! Have fun blogging :-)
Monday, January 14, 2013
Music
So I know this isn't wedding related, buuut I want to bring this up anyway. I am really self conscious. I feel like I am not talented. Of course, my amazing fiance disagrees! I love to sing, and some people tell me I'm good but I'm not so sure. I was thinking of posting a video on YouTube and seeing if other people agree or disagree with my friends. What do you guys think of this idea? I'm worried that if people say I'm no good that my confidence will be shot to hell, but on the other hand it might boost my confidence a lot. Hmm, decisions decisions!
Friday, January 11, 2013
Back to Dresses
A lot of people have negative things to say about David's Bridal and a lot of people have positive things to say about them. I, for one, am one to say positive things for them. At least SOME of their stuff is a pretty good price, and the one I went to gave me phenomenal customer service. I like it so much that I'm going back!
I am going with two of my bridesmaids over to Spokane, WA to go back to David's Bridal. I am excited to go try on more dresses, and I have style numbers written down to ask if I can try on. I am also pretty thrilled (as are my bridesmaids) to pick out bridesmaids dresses while we're there! My girls definitely lean toward their feminine sides, which means they just love dresses. This will be fun.
Last time I went to David's Bridal in Spokane, I showed up without an appointment on a Friday afternoon and they still got me in to try stuff on. Maybe it wasn't such a good idea to show up unannounced after a long drive... Probably should have called. Anyway, I got treated so well there. Best of all, despite being an overweight bride, I didn't feel fat at all. The woman helping me with everything was a size six and she still went so out of her way to make me feel beautiful, and she succeeded. I found my dream dress and was determined to get it, but as I found out (mentioned in my last post), I can't wear a strapless dress. I am going to try it back on and see about maybe wearing a bolero with it, as well as trying on more dresses hopefully. My budget got bumped up to $600, so maybe I can try on either my first or second choice dream dresses. Well, I guess I can't say first or second; I love them both so much!
So, I am going back next Saturday, doing my first long car drive (I'm used to in town driving or having other people drive me out of town D:) so I am nervous. It will go amazingly, and I can't wait, long car ride or not. Wish me luck!
I am going with two of my bridesmaids over to Spokane, WA to go back to David's Bridal. I am excited to go try on more dresses, and I have style numbers written down to ask if I can try on. I am also pretty thrilled (as are my bridesmaids) to pick out bridesmaids dresses while we're there! My girls definitely lean toward their feminine sides, which means they just love dresses. This will be fun.
Last time I went to David's Bridal in Spokane, I showed up without an appointment on a Friday afternoon and they still got me in to try stuff on. Maybe it wasn't such a good idea to show up unannounced after a long drive... Probably should have called. Anyway, I got treated so well there. Best of all, despite being an overweight bride, I didn't feel fat at all. The woman helping me with everything was a size six and she still went so out of her way to make me feel beautiful, and she succeeded. I found my dream dress and was determined to get it, but as I found out (mentioned in my last post), I can't wear a strapless dress. I am going to try it back on and see about maybe wearing a bolero with it, as well as trying on more dresses hopefully. My budget got bumped up to $600, so maybe I can try on either my first or second choice dream dresses. Well, I guess I can't say first or second; I love them both so much!
So, I am going back next Saturday, doing my first long car drive (I'm used to in town driving or having other people drive me out of town D:) so I am nervous. It will go amazingly, and I can't wait, long car ride or not. Wish me luck!
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
Summary Of It All
We talked to our priest today, and we learned a lot of things.
First off, I can't wear a strapless dress. That's it. I have to find a bolero to wear with the dress I picked out or choose a different dress. That sucks, because I love the dress I found, just the way it is. I will live, though. No one died from covering their shoulders in a church. It's a good thing I asked the priest before I forgot!
Next, we talked about the things we need to do for marriage prep in my church. We need to use a number 2 pencil (so the priest joked) to do a long "test" basically asking us questions about each other and stuff like that. He said it will take an hour and a half. Whoa, that's a while! We're going back to the church on Thursday morning to get set up with that.
Another requirement to get married in my diocese is going to this retreat called "Engaged Encounter." It's about $300 for the weekend, which is pricey, but everyone I've heard from that's gone to it says that it was amazing and that they're glad that they went. I guess it's a good thing it's a requirement, because I probably wouldn't end up going otherwise. I'm sure it will be very good for us as a couple!
We talked to the church secretary about fees and such at the church. It will be $200 to rent the church for the ceremony, $200 for the priest/donation to the church, and $450 to use their side building for the reception. That's a bit more than I was expecting... Oh well, we'll move some numbers around I guess. It's not like we have any other choice.
I got my money today! I know that student grants are supposed to go toward living expenses, but at the moment I don't pay for living expenses and my school is 100% covered, so I guess I have a little extra money... Cha-ching! I can hear that dress just calling my name. And I would even have some money left over! Handy dandy.
On another note, I ordered the save the date cards last night, that I posted a photo of the other day. It was a good price, but they failed to mention the $20 shipping charge, which I couldn't downgrade from... It was still good, so oh well, I can deal with it. I also ordered the red pocket folds that I mentioned in a previous post for the invitations. 150 of everything! We will be set for sure.
So, that was our day... Well, last night too. We're getting there, slowly but surely!
First off, I can't wear a strapless dress. That's it. I have to find a bolero to wear with the dress I picked out or choose a different dress. That sucks, because I love the dress I found, just the way it is. I will live, though. No one died from covering their shoulders in a church. It's a good thing I asked the priest before I forgot!
Next, we talked about the things we need to do for marriage prep in my church. We need to use a number 2 pencil (so the priest joked) to do a long "test" basically asking us questions about each other and stuff like that. He said it will take an hour and a half. Whoa, that's a while! We're going back to the church on Thursday morning to get set up with that.
Another requirement to get married in my diocese is going to this retreat called "Engaged Encounter." It's about $300 for the weekend, which is pricey, but everyone I've heard from that's gone to it says that it was amazing and that they're glad that they went. I guess it's a good thing it's a requirement, because I probably wouldn't end up going otherwise. I'm sure it will be very good for us as a couple!
We talked to the church secretary about fees and such at the church. It will be $200 to rent the church for the ceremony, $200 for the priest/donation to the church, and $450 to use their side building for the reception. That's a bit more than I was expecting... Oh well, we'll move some numbers around I guess. It's not like we have any other choice.
I got my money today! I know that student grants are supposed to go toward living expenses, but at the moment I don't pay for living expenses and my school is 100% covered, so I guess I have a little extra money... Cha-ching! I can hear that dress just calling my name. And I would even have some money left over! Handy dandy.
On another note, I ordered the save the date cards last night, that I posted a photo of the other day. It was a good price, but they failed to mention the $20 shipping charge, which I couldn't downgrade from... It was still good, so oh well, I can deal with it. I also ordered the red pocket folds that I mentioned in a previous post for the invitations. 150 of everything! We will be set for sure.
So, that was our day... Well, last night too. We're getting there, slowly but surely!
Sunday, January 6, 2013
Meeting With The Priest
Today I called my priest back, and guess what! He called back an hour later! The last message I left must have gotten lost in cyber space, I suppose.
It's OFFICIAL! The church is now reserved on October 26th at 2 PM for our wedding. I am so exciting. When things happen officially it all seems to much more real. It seems so close but so far away! Almost 10 months before the wedding, and there is still sooo much to do and so little time.
We're meeting with our priest on Tuesday at 2 PM for premarital "counseling", I guess. I'm not sure what to expect, so I guess we'll just have to wait and see. I am so nervous, because I don't go to church as often as I would like to claim, so talking to the priest will be a little weird. I barely know the priest when he's already been at our parish for almost a year, I think. It doesn't help that he's a very awkward and nervous guy, which is gonna make it even more nerve-wracking to me. I wonder how many times we'll have to meet with him...
On another note, we started a FB event where people can RSVP to the wedding. Don't worry, we're still going to send out save the dates and formal invitations, but this way we can get a closer idea of how many people we might be expecting. It won't be 100% accurate, though, since there are people we are inviting without Facebook accounts, or even computers! We've got 20 people who have said yes on the RSVP on FB and 9 maybes, SO FAR. We invited 108 people total, I think, but a lot of those people will be coming together if they do in fact come.
Anyway, I will stop using your free time by making you read my mind mush and let you go. Happy blogging!
It's OFFICIAL! The church is now reserved on October 26th at 2 PM for our wedding. I am so exciting. When things happen officially it all seems to much more real. It seems so close but so far away! Almost 10 months before the wedding, and there is still sooo much to do and so little time.
We're meeting with our priest on Tuesday at 2 PM for premarital "counseling", I guess. I'm not sure what to expect, so I guess we'll just have to wait and see. I am so nervous, because I don't go to church as often as I would like to claim, so talking to the priest will be a little weird. I barely know the priest when he's already been at our parish for almost a year, I think. It doesn't help that he's a very awkward and nervous guy, which is gonna make it even more nerve-wracking to me. I wonder how many times we'll have to meet with him...
On another note, we started a FB event where people can RSVP to the wedding. Don't worry, we're still going to send out save the dates and formal invitations, but this way we can get a closer idea of how many people we might be expecting. It won't be 100% accurate, though, since there are people we are inviting without Facebook accounts, or even computers! We've got 20 people who have said yes on the RSVP on FB and 9 maybes, SO FAR. We invited 108 people total, I think, but a lot of those people will be coming together if they do in fact come.
Anyway, I will stop using your free time by making you read my mind mush and let you go. Happy blogging!
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